Fashion and the art of tug a war

People often label the world of fashion and pageantry shallow and it is often true.  It is a world of tug a war between my passion for fashion and my resentment towards gossip and judgement.  I often wonder why people are so judgmental and critical towards others.  Truth be told no one is perfect and if instead of pointing the finger towards others, if we looked inwards at ourselves what would we find?  Why not use ones experiences of the heart for acceptance and understanding towards another?   I reflect on my own experiences in life and all I have been through.  All this knowledge and strength I have gained.  I find joy sharing my story in hopes it could encourage another.  Why not share ones experience, strength and hope?   Yet I look around some days and I find my heart sinks.  Ego is such a bit part of this business.  It takes over and makes you blind to the heart.  Can we share ourselves and not want anything in return? Give someone hope through your story instead of gossiping and telling another's  with a judgmental heart?  It's not giving much really.  Yet I often times see and hear gossip and judgement.  In those times I look deeper within myself and ask how I can be a better person...and realize that even listening to gossip is taking part of it.  Everyday I take in all of this as a learning curve.  And remind myself to build fences not walls.  To set a different standard that even though I LOVE fashion and growing to love the pageant world I need not partake is such demeanor.  That it can be a giving world, one where we share our experiences in hopes to find a glimpse of ourselves in another.  To feel excepted.  And most of all to feel encouraged.